Miguel de Cervantes once commented, “facts are the enemy of truth.”
The fact - what actually occurred - is the ultimate; the sole proprietor of the incident. Whereas, the truth is also what actually occurred, though much more relative to the individual. Each of us is but living her/his own dream. We see colors, interpret signs, and share ideas all in our own, unique way. This also known as individualism.
Individualism is not a concept. Individualism is who we are, how we are, what we do, and how we do it. Our actions are based on the form of our Self. We exist as both what we know and what we do not know. We possess Love and Fear, both simultaneously and interchangeably. Some of us know this while a great majority of us do not. Most of us struggle to find this; discover that one point in our lives when we can put our finger on precisely what we are. This coincides with the process/journey/craziness of Life. Lessons are forever learned and thus our Individual Self is consistently and constantly changing and forming.
Goals fit into this ideal. Setting goals for yourself is a positive thing; there are matters to conquer. Having goals, however vast or unique, are individualistic. A goal for one person will not have the same passion as being a goal for another person. My concern lays when one person steals another person’s goal. Here is a better layout:
1) Person A has a goal.
2) Person A shares this goal with Person B.
3) Person A sets out to achieve the goal.
4) Person B completes the goal of Person A, making it known to Person A of the accomplishment. Person B never shared the desire to complete Person A’s goal; just up and did it.
Sound insane? Yeah, it is. But it happens. Though it does sound like animosity, that never originally existed between the two people.
Yeah, yeah, there are a zillion excuses to use for why Person B never shared the goal. But then there lays the actual fact: if Person B is a weak person (which is true), having personal goals is not a well, thought-out concept. New ideas are considered foreign, thus leading to Fear. Where there is Fear, there is no passion.
I find goal stealing rude. I also see it as a blessing, as this action allows the reality of the person’s essence to come forward. For then, the supposed passion to reach the goal is fueled by Fear and quite possibly Jealousy; so not a good thing. Person B Types are needy, clingy, and incapable of having an independent thought. Not even that, these sort of people have no aspirations; they cling to others for a sign of the future. These are people to stay far the hell away from. These types do nothing but drag you down. Where is the loyalty to one’s Self? Where is the ultimate sense of achievement?
People should be respectful and follow some sort of goal etiquette.